Finishing school exams often brings relief for students and their parents, but it quickly shifts to a new kind of stress—waiting for results. What should be a summer of rest can easily turn into weeks of worry and pressure. For many young people, this period is filled with self-doubt and anxiety, and the words parents choose can make a huge difference. The Bitesize Parents’ Toolkit spoke with Educational and Child Psychologist Dr. Anisa-Ree Moses from Learning & Wellbeing Psychology, who shares practical guidance on what not to say before and after results day to best support your child.
It may feel natural to ask your child if they’re nervous about results day, but Dr. Anisa-Ree Moses explains this can sometimes make them feel awkward—especially if asked repeatedly. A closed question like “Are you nervous?” usually leads to a simple “Yes” or “No,” shutting down further conversation. Dr. Moses suggests that instead, parents use open questions that encourage children to share more about their feelings and experiences. For example, asking “How are you doing?” or “How are you feeling in the lead-up to your results?” creates space for meaningful dialogue and genuine emotional support.
Parents may think lowering expectations will ease their child’s worries, but Dr. Anisa-Ree Moses advises against this approach. Telling a child you don’t expect much can feel dismissive of their hard work and effort, almost like devaluing the long hours they’ve invested. Instead, Dr. Moses suggests striking a balance—showing high expectations while also offering reassurance. A supportive phrase like, “We’re here for you, no matter what your results are,” acknowledges both effort and care. She also recommends light distractions, such as planning a movie night or taking a walk, to help ease their anxiety while waiting.
-Peace News Desk